Shy to hinder your progress and development

Shy to hinder your progress and development
It is the behavioral most common form of a kind of escape to be shy, it is varied that it behaves. In daily life, will often see such a phenomenon: Some people run into the acquaintance to avoid on the road on purpose because of being coy; Some people dare, speak, once talking will blush tongue to be hard under public. The above-mentioned situation is called the coy psychology on psychology. Forming and Childhood of the coy psychology lack parents' caress or seldom relate to the fact that the external environment keeps in touch. This kind of people's personalities are mostly introversive, the phenotype that the makings are mucus quality type melancholic temperament type or two kinds of types, the nervous system is relatively fragile, women exceed men. The reason why the coy psychology produces, besides relating to people's makings characteristic, it is mainly the environment and function educated. For example, can not be rewarded when being fruitful, the boy who is punished when but there is no achievement is the most shy; If parents are positive on the social activity, then their child will scarcely be shy, this states function of home environment. It has it for fear of working, study and human communication that too coy in daily life. Have coy the intersection of people and restraining from and overcautious oneself too much of psychology, and it is difficult to establish intimate relation with people; It causes weakness and indifference on the personality because depressed, anxious and lonely; Timid and weak-willed, timid and weak-willed because of being coy. The coy psychology can lighten gradually with the increase of associating with the years. It is shy with strangers if has reached age of marriage, do not dare to keep in touch and associate with people, this has been turned into a kind of morbid psychology. How to overcome the coy psychology? There should wicked dose of British philosopher of self-confidence that has said: " people should respect oneself, should also consider oneself and can deserve the noblest thing " . To coy person, it must not be that one's own weakness is tense, just the opposite, should often think of one's own strong point, be deeply convinced: " it must be useful to be born my material " . Should train self-confidence, believe that so long as does with enthusiasm, one's own ability can certainly be brought into play. Don't fear others' words the intersection of analysis and those afraid of speaking in the public carefully, shy to the person having dealings with people, it is easy to find, they are most afraid the appraisal which others denied. The more so afraid that more and more shy, the more it is afraid, form the vicious circle that the more shy. In fact, " which person back nobody says " ,Commented it is a normal thing, needn't value excessively. Sometimes, the appraisal that is denied may become and encourage one's own motive force. Pay attention to exercise method, begin, can make a speech more on the range in acquaintance first, in acquaintance more, practise in the less range by stranger, , acquaintance's few occasions that and then develop into the stranger more, follow in order and advance step by step, increasing will resist strength to the shy psychology progressively. Every to a new occasion, make full preparations in advance, strengthened confidence, improve courage. Society the intersection of self-suggestion and law get strange occasion when being self inductance nervous each time, can use, imply the intersection of law and calm mood, for example treat stranger as the acquaintance treats equally, the coy psychology can be reduced more than half. After the coy one told the first sentence in the strange occasion bravely, the following one will be probably a fluent language. Break through original resistance with self-suggestion law, it is to overcome a kind of shy effective measures. So long as you dare correctly to be coy to say " Never fear " ,And dare to overcome it in practice, will go out of the shy low ebb, become the natural and graceful person

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