Do Americans accompany 100? !

Do Americans accompany 100? !
I saw a survey report about life of U.S.A.'s human nature on the newspaper a few days ago, one of these is said: ' 10% of the men and 5% of the women have too many to 100 distinction companions. ' see here, I am gaping, can't close the mouth unexpectedly for the moment. ' 100 lovers! ' is not this a lot of? Besides, ' 10% ' not the majority, cannot be regarded as the exception, but ' the minority that can't ignore '. A Canadian friend came to chat that afternoon, I referred to this investigation very naturally. ' 100? 10%? ' finish listening to, he has a startled appearance too. But what I have not expected is the second sentence of his: ' lack really? ' in this case, I have to give up no matter the principle of the others' other people's business at ordinary times, have asked to him boldly: ' then, how much have you yourself had on earth? ' ask everybody to breathe deeply twice first, watch out for and have a heart attack! ' the intersection of I and the last number of times count shortly before the get married before the 15 year, 33 year old for me at that time, can count to 138. ' he says. ' 138! ' my mouth can not be closed again. Writer friend whom I kept a close watch on and sat opposite to me, he is the personage of middle class graduating from university, it is not a hooligan, does not look like a play-boy either. However, he tells me, he has become a hippy with long hair at young time, sing the praises of the free love in the American west bank. At that time, efficient contraceptive which was up to 98% was just invented, actually it is pregnant and non- willing to feared the girls who there is the sexual life easily, in the numerous and complicated teams participating in ' sex revolution ' in an instant. As a result, ' look for pieces of girl, sleep as looking for a hamburger to be eaten easy. ' after he has left, I will phone another friend at once. This girlfriend is Canadian of the yellow race of 29 -year-old this year, work for some time after graduation from university, write the housewife's life in the suburban small town now. Her response exceeds the expectation of me too, she says in a deadpan way: ' you are surprised at. ' she says: ' I begin to make the boyfriend at 13 years old. Children! What is understood? Do that at the beginning, does not stop doing. Especially study in the middle school, arrive summer vacation, nearly each there is a party weekend. Have drunk, after smoking the hemp, not even remembering with whom done to write, what. In this way, it is easy thoroughly that one summer looks for five, ten boys. Over 20, I begin to come down seriously too. However, before getting married at 26 years old, there are a dozen only long-term boyfriends. Moreover, after a friend's departure followed, before finding the next friend, there must be some! ' so for her, ' 100 ' difficult figure that imagine. Perhaps you think, after AIDS appears, this kind of behavior has been already out of date, have not often existed. I am sorry, you are wrong. The aforesaid says, Americans' sexual life of today, more active than the past any era. Especially more than ten, young people about 20 years old, the disease that will suffer from of persons who generally thought AIDS was the gay, do not often take the precautionary measures. It is not actually a bad thing to make love, and it and life was relevant directly, it should be the sacred thing. In latter half of the 20th century, had already influenced the countries all over the world from the free love trend which U.S.A. began, the sexual behavior has been customary for a long time if I believed a lot of people to the premarital sex, wedding. Even so, ' several lovers ' and distance between ' 100 lovers ' are very big, it is two different situations. It pours to be intensity different in exist between these two, ' quantity ' and issue of ' the quality '. In the traditional society, ' sexual intercourse ' with there are close and direct relations between ' love ', ' the marriage ', ' reproduction ', but the North American society today, this four person seems it is totally independent each other. Just as buffet checked out just, someone choice ' sex ' in not choosing wantonly on several kinds of dishes and ' love ' (freedom to choose one's spouse) ,Also someone is only ' reproduction ' (single is fertilized manually) of choice ,Even if there is only ' sex ' on your plate, no one condemns you are partial to a limited variety of food. In fact, a lot of north beauty think ' sex ' need as prerequisite, otherwise ' 100 lover ' the phenomenon be at all can not take placed: Because the love is not the instant noodles, it can ripe to need to take time. So, ' 100 individual character companions ' are never equal to ' 100 lovers ', probably even ' 100 lovers ' can not begin to talk about. My Canadian friend speaks very accurately, ' 100 hamburgers ' are not different that ' 100 individual character companions ' essentially follow, speak a little more unpleasantly, it is ' 100 pieces of meat '. Why is this kind of situation stressed in North America even more than the other areas? There are several reasons: First of all, there is background of Christianity ' the culture of sexual repression ' in North America, in people's subconscious, carnal desire is considered as low even crime for a long time. So lofty ' love ' and low actually ' sexual desire ' is the concept each other contradictory; The sexual relations taking place only inside the marriage based on love are normal, sacred. Later, the trends of freedom to choose one's spouse, free love broke the circle of marriage. But solve all through the ages ' love ' and contradiction of ' carnal desire ', have opening at the human body easy. Secondly, as everyone knows, North America with ideal place, liberalization any belong to front in theory, the free love certainly should be front too. In this case, it is very difficult to look for the reason to prevent the trend of the free love. Third, in the individualism society, it is a taboo to interfere others' life, even if you yourself disagree with the free love, also have no right to object to others' freedom. In addition, there is a more concrete environmental factor too. North America place is large, the house is big too, even children have one's own rooms. Besides, the society is rich, all there are a few cars in every family, the child can drive and go out to play with opposite sex's friend in 16 s. Looking like the above-mentioned my friend, the little 13 -year-old girl has sexual lives, this is not allowed in a lot of societies by conditions. Teenagers are because of the sex impact terribly, the thought is unripe, once begin to have sexual lives, stage developed into ' not stop doing ' soon. In my view, the most important problem is: Regard others as the person of the hamburger, whether can understand what is it about love on earth? The sex actually could make a couple most intimate (happiest too) Keep in touch, can understand the other side each other. But only get ' The chance that the sex ' be realized ' loves ', that is not worth envying, just as eating 100 hamburgers, it is unable to compare with eating a really delicious meal. From this view point, it is not the progress to be extreme and free
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