American women fear the marriage _'s love for time
Though " 9 11 " After the incident happens, Americans' aspiration of the family is rebounding, but this can not retrieve the declining trend that the divorce rate rise, according to an investigation relying mainly on woman that the U.S. government announced a few days ago, 30 -year-old
At time, 3/4 of the women entered " besieged city " already ,But there are a lot of people midway at the same time" Go out of the city " ,Unfortunately, 43% married couple fail to insist on the marriage 15 years finally. The investigation reveals, the American women of today accepted later that proposed than in the past, but once divorce, but no longer get married more. Now, 54% of the divorced women will remarry in 5 years. Since the fifties of the 20th century, this rate has been dropping, half a century ago, 65% of the divorce women have chosen to remarry. These investigates that has aroused the attention from people, because people find, odd your careless respects in the past are injuring the American's marriage deeply, a lot of marriage senilis even die young. As to this, American Penn study assistant professors of department Catherine and khan to point out in human development and family of state university, in people's habitual understanding (such as economic predicament, habits and customs difference, knowledge disparity in compatibility of temperament,etc.) Outside, have several new " faces " Strangling Americans' marriage, fully notice these factors will contribute to avoiding that it is dangerous to divorce. First " The killer " It is the premarital cohabit. The investigation reveals, half of American women cohabit with the person during 30 years old, but in 10 years after marriage, the married couple of premarital cohabit have 40% divorce, but there are not only 31% cohabitting. The psychologist Brahm and Letts points out about this, the person of premarital cohabit of the digital display is more likely to divorce than the person not cohabitting, this may be the person choosing the pre-marital cohabitation, their attachment to the family is a little thinner than that of the person not cohabitting. "The reason why a lot of people choose to cohabit instead of stepping foot on the palace of the marriage directly, in fact lack the confidence to marriage and the other side, in their view, it is a very unrestrained form to cohabit, should benefit it to the accident taking place, if can't keep the intimate relation, they at any time can separate, do it in this way loss can a bit less too. Unless the problem is, though later on last marriage palace much cohabitation,the delicate tacit understanding (conform to from) Having still maintained, they surmount and cohabit person at stage to marriage less sacred sense than those. " Second, marry too early. The figure showed, half of person who got married under 18 had divorced later, 40% of person getting married before 20 years old divorced, and only 24% of divorcee of person getting married 25 years old later. The difference is obvious. As to this, psychologist the intersection of Kate and fertile Sri Lankan think it is important factor to maintain marriage or not to be ripe. Generally speaking, the persons who marry too early have not often determined the nature while getting married yet, the understanding of one's own and spouse is not very clear, until the intersection of married couple and both sides need obligation that undertake know enoughly either get married, lack sense of duty relatively too society, more important, they do not have strong enough ability to deal with problem. Such a person, once meet the hiccup of the marriage, it is very apt to vent one's spleen on who is not to blame to the other side, do not know how to show understanding and forbearing and conciliatory, is not good at cooling and relaxing the tense relation either, a lot of people do not stop the result because of noisy one of minor matter, hurt one's feelings very much. By contrast, annual a bit longer person because has abundant experience of life, the personality tends towards stability too, it is known what oneself wants, what can be born, therefore will be more objective in choosing spouse, there is more rational understanding on also the marriage, are relatively good at dealing with to the problem appearing too, also can take good care of the marriage even more. Third, the wedding previous existence is bred. What made people surprised is in the statistic, those nourish the women of the child or parenting before marriage, 50% divorced in 10 years after marriage. The psychologist analyzes, this may relate to it influences study and employment to bearing. Generally speaking, women that bore too early, probably know the influence study, and then influence and obtain employment too, miss good receiving an education chance and working opportunity, it is very apt to make people produce and bear the sense to parenting and even marriage, seldom go to treat the marriage and procreation future generation actively. Fourth, parents divorce. Parents are a mirror of the child's, their attitude toward marriage influences children's marriage life to a great extent. The fact proves, women that those parents divorced, what divorced was up to 43% in 10 years after marriage, and parents still maintain women of the marriage, only 29% of probability of divorcing. Fifth, there is no religious belief. Investigation reveal have Americans of religious belief, have 46% people divorce in marrying 10 years. This is mainly because these people are less likely to come and go with the external world, but in a religious society such as U.S.A., there are no depth and broadness that religious belief will influence the human communication to a certain extent. Sixth, the complexion. Compared with white woman, the getting married rate of black woman is relatively low, and the divorce rate is relatively high. During 30 years old, 81% of the white women already got married, and only 52% of black woman. In 15 years after marriage, over half of the black women divorced, but after the divorce, black women remarry less than white women too. The report reveals, because the rate of unemployment is relatively high, the black man is less likely to consider the quality of the marriage, because they can not guarantee even livelihood and dignity at least.
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