Net friend's model: Does the woman have asexual love?

Net friend's model: Does the woman have asexual love?
Home of message board >>Wide social views >>Health life >>Sohu psychological forum message board describes ---The psychological problem is consulted [the mottled bamboo ] [Cathyone title of one pair of mottled bamboos ]: Woman's psychology has authors with asexual love: Wang0106061 [joins the quintessence district ] [the tabulation of returning ] [replies ] [rotates and sticks to ] [bale ] asks: Dr. Su, I am Tian Tian in Beijing, 34 years old this year, have already been married for six years, I love my husband very much, but I know from he to now have no interest in his producing respect. We there may be sexual life once a month, two three there is once month sometimes, and I undertake to do what is apparently beyond one's ability in extremely unwilling cases, because I am afraid in the face of his disappointed sight. In fact, I still love him, disappearing in a few days will think what is lacked in life, but why I to the intersection of he and expectation and interest of person who does not have? Can tell me, can the marriage without sexual life be for a long time? Hope you point out the right way. A: Tian Tian, a representative question that you are in the face of, no matter in U.S.A. or in China, man and woman come to look for me because of the puzzlement of the sexual life. Ask the person of such question, usually hope their marital statuses are different. They love another party, but does not feel the contact of sex. They are all unwilling to divorce, so want to find the theory according to finding the excuse for the indifference of the sex for them, get the talisman which stabilizes the marriage at the same time. I to the question most honest answer, no, I believe can you have any nature people of interest together with one, live healthy, romantic and the intersection of couple and life that reach old age, want, regard sexual life as the intersection of life and people of a portion, any to me at least, can not be imagined at all. No matter how to say, it is the sexual love that has distinguished friendship and close conjugal relation. If a pair of old men almost the eighty years old meet, even the having demand does not influence them to live either, because what they need is the interdependent feeling that accompany. But to those men and women under the age of 75, having no reason not to enjoy passionate, perfectly contented sexual love life. Curiously, ask most people of issue to 30 reach 50 -year-old couple such as the I, they all fall into in having attractiveness with asexual love, but he has no of any question in sex function, no matter you how longly does it live a life together, you either apt to train strong hope in he. Presenting such a phenomenon may be involved in several following psychological factors: (1)Intimate neurosis: Avoid the real one is on intimate terms. The sex is that the special binder connects men and women. , that kind of unparalleled one, the intimate sense of making people shake is different to instruct in words. Outwardly, you do not like the sexual love, but you love a man's behavior of attractiveness to him, probably you avoid the real intimate relation in living a life unconsciously. Subconscious of you remind oneself whether need and husband too intimate, otherwise oneself will become fragile to even lose the control. (2)The frightened psychological obstacle of the sex: Some people not only prevent from intimately but also have frightened psychology on sex. The reason for producing this kind of psychology is numerous, for example: You were maltreated by infringement or sex in the childhood; Once raped; And the former boyfriend or husband has disharmonious sexual relations; Your parents relation not good or around relatives have been maltreated; Other unfortunate sex of making you be unable to forget are gone through etc.. Because of all above-mentioned reasons, it is unable to stimulate your man who loves the interest that you may love those unconsciously, perhaps you do not know your sexual frightened psychological obstacle oneself. May you feel inconceivable, why fall in love with him but disgusted with and he make love? If you and really chemical reaction of person who does not have between the husband, you might need, solve your own the intersection of sex and psychological problem at first, otherwise relation of you very difficult to keep for a long time, you oneself too can immerse until love and sex unable to get rid of in being puzzled. Propose visiting a good psychologist and making the plan coming out in a shade from the sex. (3)Control syndrome: As you to someone's sexual illusion and sex attractiveness, in fact, you give the other side to a certain extent some and control your power or chance. If you are very strong to the desire to control or often fear to lose the control, you will not love the companion of glamour carelessly, keep one's own " security " Conceal the fragility of heart in and the manor. Because there is no contact of too much sex, you can allow some leeway and keep the distance on the emotion, thus make the illusion (false appearance) that you play a controlling role in the conjugal relation . Your question is most difficult but a lot of questions unwilling to face of couple strictly. It is a very painful challenge to find truly, but will destroy the life of you and him to deceive oneself as well as others. The happy key is in your hands, only you can open the gate of that happy marriage. ------[Join the quintessence district ] [the tabulation of returning ] [Reply ] [rotate stick to ] [bale ] Read time in author's number of words of the title Woman's psychology has wang010606129004706-22 23:21 with asexual love

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